My dear senior citizen brothers and sisters
I was fortunate enough to be the Secretary of Senior Citizens Forum at Nanganallur, for some time and during that golden period I had chances to interact with many of you residing in and around Nangnallur. I observed what was felt by some of the members of the Forum and list below the same, as stated by them to me:
1. ”I lived an uneventful existence. I wasn’t happy. I wasn’t unhappy either. I was just sort of stuck”
2. ”I had a good career, earned lots of money, had great friends and a loving family but I feel unfulfilled and unmotivated. I repeatedly lived each day like the one before.”
2. ”I had a good career, earned lots of money, had great friends and a loving family but I feel unfulfilled and unmotivated. I repeatedly lived each day like the one before.”
3. ” I look around me and see that everybody within my own circle of friends, relatives, and immediate family are not different. They too seemed stuck, unmotivated—like they were living their lives on automatic pilot.”
Please think for a while. Why this pessimistic and unhappy feeling of our brothers and sisters ? It is all a self created problem. The key lies within your ability to accept what “is”
Here are 8 tips to help you make that choice:
1. WE ARE POWERFUL.
You have no idea what you are supposed to be doing, or whom you are supposed to be ”imitating” because this is what we do: conforming to external environment. We identify with ”things” defining who we assume to be , say, a doctor, an advocate, a salesman, writer, driver, and cook, etc besides developing the feeling ” I’m sad, unhappy, lonely, or miserable. I’m angry, jealous, afraid, ” and feel dejected that we cannot help it.– we conclude ”I am this.” The fact is that ‘we are none of these’. We are more important than any of these identities. We are not the ”professions” or ”feelings” or ”circumstances” . We are not even our mind but far greater, superior and more than what our mind projects.
You have no idea what you are supposed to be doing, or whom you are supposed to be ”imitating” because this is what we do: conforming to external environment. We identify with ”things” defining who we assume to be , say, a doctor, an advocate, a salesman, writer, driver, and cook, etc besides developing the feeling ” I’m sad, unhappy, lonely, or miserable. I’m angry, jealous, afraid, ” and feel dejected that we cannot help it.– we conclude ”I am this.” The fact is that ‘we are none of these’. We are more important than any of these identities. We are not the ”professions” or ”feelings” or ”circumstances” . We are not even our mind but far greater, superior and more than what our mind projects.
WE ARE VERY POWERFUL!!!! than what we think of us.
2. LIVE EVERY MOMENT.
Catch every moment regardless of any obstacle or an opportunity. Ignore fussing over trivial matters. Focus on what is of real importance for you this moment. LIVE ACCODINGLY. Dont look for changes. You make life difficult for you, if you begin complaining about anything.
CHANGE YOURSELF to adapt to CHANGES offered by Life. It is not a practice-run. Be bold and courageous. Decide on what would really benefit your growth quickly. Time always moves steadily and dont lose it. Quickly decide on changes you need. Your life depends on your Your choice, Your responsibility and Your power.
3. CONTROL YOUR REACTIONS.
Our life is reflection of our own thoughts and beliefs. What you see out is what you think within. We do have problems, tested by circumstances beyond our control. While you have no control on what comes from outside, you can control your reaction to it. It is our mind and intellect, which is influenced by external occurrences. Encourage only positive and beneficial influence to enter your inner world. Discard the rest. You have more control ”on you” than you think.
Our life is reflection of our own thoughts and beliefs. What you see out is what you think within. We do have problems, tested by circumstances beyond our control. While you have no control on what comes from outside, you can control your reaction to it. It is our mind and intellect, which is influenced by external occurrences. Encourage only positive and beneficial influence to enter your inner world. Discard the rest. You have more control ”on you” than you think.
4. NO ONE IS BETTER QUALIFIED.
Dont place too much emphasis on others’ opinions about you. It will take away your own personal power. What others say about you, matters nothing and has no significance to who you truly are. Nobody knows you better than you do. Never take others’ reality as your own. Always believe that you can achieve anything you think.
5. BELIEVE YOURSELF MORE THAN ENOUGH.
You can compare yourself with only a person who is less fortunate and learn how abundant your life truly is, as a matter of perspective. Thank Almighty, and be entirely grateful for what you possess and be contented. If you think you need more, it is endless. Focus on what you have, and not on what you lack, and remarkably you will find you have enough.
6. LOVE YOURSELF.
You have arrived. Open your eyes and see that whatever you needed is with you already, to make you happy and feel contented. Happiness was packed inside you when you were born. God has sent us down like that without any partiality. It was just enveloped by all the external things you have identified. Be yourself and LOVE YOURSELF completely and accept everything that you are. Think you are beautiful. Believe it, and remember it always. Dont think you are old and aged.. Never are you. You are young as you were always. It is the mastery of mind over matter. Aging is only a process. I dont feel I am old at 85. It is the mind set which makes all the difference.
7. REMAIN COOL.
You easily get heated if someone cuts you in traffic or jumps the queue ahead of you, when you are waiting, and your BP goes up and you react negatively. You are influenced by others’ actions and thus punish yourself because of others. Don’t lose your control. If you dont stay cool you are the loser in the end.
8. MOVE ON WELL
Our life moves on and be conscious you have already reached where you need to move and remain contented with where/what you are today and be happy because you are waiting for the right moment to shine and ENJOY YOUR LIFE’S JOURNEY because it is moving fast and short. Remember EVERY ONE WHO SAID GOOD NIGHT AND WENT TO BED, HAD NOT WOKEN UP THIS MORNING AND IT IS NOT ASSURED THAT EVERYONE WILL GO TO BED TONIGHT.!!!!! YOU ARE LUCKY.
Life has no guarantees. Every minute you enjoy living, blessing experience. If you remember this constantly it becomes easy, — it is your choice, your own choice. Well you may learn the above and teach your wards and convey to your friends also for their benefit. Incidentally do you agree with my observations?
